There’s a particular kind of loneliness that doesn’t come from being alone.
It comes from being surrounded by people and still feeling unseen. From realizing you don’t quite fit where you thought you did. From outgrowing rooms that once felt like home-or discovering they never really were.
Belonging isn’t always taken from us loudly. Sometimes it slips away quietly.
A conversation that doesn’t include you anymore. A season where the invitations stop. A relationship that changes without explanation.
And abandonment doesn’t always look like someone leaving. Sometimes it looks like someone staying-while emotionally checking out.
So, if this feeling has been weighing on you, you’re not reading this alone.
Loneliness and Abandonment Don’t Always Look Dramatic
Sometimes abandonment isn’t someone walking out—it’s someone slowly pulling away.
It’s the unanswered messages. The relationships that change without explanation. The sense that you’re always the one adjusting, while others move on effortlessly.
That kind of loneliness makes you turn inward. It asks hard questions:
What did I do wrong?
Why am I never quite enough?
Why does everyone else seem to have a place—but me?
I’ve asked those questions too.
The In-Between Season
There’s a season in life that feels like standing between chapters—where who you were no longer fits, but who you’re becoming isn’t clear yet.
It’s disorienting.
It’s isolating.
And it can feel deeply personal, like something has gone wrong.
Scripture tells a different story.
David was anointed king… then sent back to obscurity.
Joseph was given dreams… then forgotten in prison.
Even Jesus experienced rejection, misunderstanding, and abandonment.
The in-between isn’t failure.
It’s often formation.
What This Season Has Taught Me
Loneliness has taught me things I never learned in full rooms.
It taught me that belonging isn’t something people grant—it’s something God anchors.
It taught me that being called doesn’t mean being understood.
And it taught me that separation can sometimes be protection, not punishment.
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” — Psalm 34:18
I clung to that truth when I didn’t feel close to anyone else.
Why I Write About This
I didn’t write my books from a place of distance or detached faith. I wrote them from seasons where I was searching, questioning, and learning to trust God in the quiet.
Much of Mess, Mercy, and Miracles was shaped in moments where I needed reassurance myself—reminders that God meets us in the mess, not after we escape it.
I write because I know what it’s like to need hope that feels honest, not polished.
If You’re Feeling This Too
If you feel like you don’t belong anywhere right now…
If loneliness has been louder than comfort…
If abandonment—real or perceived—has left you questioning your worth…
Please hear this from someone who understands:
You are not broken.
You are not forgotten.
And this season does not define your value.
Belonging doesn’t always begin with people.
Sometimes it begins with being fully known by God—and learning to rest there first.
And if nothing else, let this be enough for today:
You are seen.
You are understood.
And you are not alone in feeling alone.
If you’re seeking more encouragement today, you may find comfort in our Devotions or be strengthened by our Verse of The Day or Prayers, offering Scripture to carry with you throughout the day.
